In my book The Shyness Guide, I say that when you learn to accept your shyness, you become less shy. It's true. When you're no longer concerned about being shy, you no longer experience that kind of anxiety, so it's easier to talk to people. Simple as that. But that isn't all you gain from … Continue reading Shy and/or autistic Confidence, and its rewards
Rescuing psychology | Simon and Garfunkel’s ‘I am a Rock’ | Incels and detachment
In The Shyness Guide, I make the case that detachment is a tool one can use to enter and explore the social world.
Rescuing Shyness | Resist the hostility of the social world
Nothing about shyness bothers non-shy people more than the reluctance of shy people to talk. "What's the matter with you? Speak up! Be assertive! Stop hiding from us!" - that's their common refrain in workplaces, at school, etc. Why are social people like that? I think it starts with their instinctual need for communication. Never … Continue reading Rescuing Shyness | Resist the hostility of the social world
Shyness |Accept yourself, but don’t expect them to accept you
My book The Shyness Guide basically does three things: It presents the evidence that shyness is natural It tries to convince you to accept yourself as a shy person It shows how you can function in the social world in a shy way, rather than in the outgoing way that is constantly urged on you. … Continue reading Shyness |Accept yourself, but don’t expect them to accept you
The Shyness Guide – free PDF excerpt
Because the Kindle ebook is going to be delayed, I have made up a 77 page PDF (from the 289 pages of the new book) that you can download free. This is not an abridgement, but it is much more than the usual sampling you get on books for sale. Read it and you'll come … Continue reading The Shyness Guide – free PDF excerpt
Alan Conrad 