I must admit that my perspective on shyness is different than most. It's the perspective of a loner. During my life I've often been called shy, sensitive, or introverted. But several people, at different times, have also told me that I was the most independent person they'd ever met. Well, that strong independence is genetic. … Continue reading What does a Loner know about Shyness?
About 10 years ago I did a search for loner websites and found none. The only site that used the term was Loners of America. That turned out to be a group of seniors who had each lost their partner but owned an RV. This group of newly singled men and women travelled around America together, … Continue reading What is a Loner?
Here is another post from my previous blog, Loner's Highway. In this case it's a review of the book, Party of One - The Loner's Manifesto, by Anneli Rufus. What a book! It's written with style and erudition, yet Ms Rufus comes across as if she's sitting on the other side of a table from you, … Continue reading Party of One | A review
I've been asking myself this since I was in high school in the 1960s. That's when I read the chapters in H.G. Wells's Outline of History, where he introduced me to the evolution of early humans. Inspired, I read everything I could find on human origins. Over the years I noticed that most writers assumed that humanity … Continue reading Are We a Social Animal?
Here is a post from my previous blog, Loner's Highway. I was writing about columnist Heather Mallick's review in the Toronto Star of Olivia Laing's book The Lonely City: Adventures in the Art of Being Alone. I think this should interest most shy people as well as loners, so I'm repeating it here. What interested … Continue reading Lonely in the City? – Maybe Not
Do you know about Dunbar's number? A British anthropologist, Robin Dunbar, studied the size of stable social groups and concluded in the 1990s that an individual's preferred number of people is 150. Neolithic farming villages supposedly were that size, the basic operating units of armies since Roman times have been and are that size, and … Continue reading What is your Dunbar number?