I'm returning to my Brooklyn, New York lady feeding her pigeons on Christmas morning a few years ago. I hope she was able to go out again this morning.
In case anyone wonders why there have been few posts here recently, for which I apologize, this is the reason. My wife/lifelong partner has been suffering from Alzheimer's/dementia for years, along with some severe physical disabilities. I am her chief caregiver. We have entered the late stages and as much as you can read about … Continue reading Rescuing Ourselves | Alzheimer’s and dementia
From 2006 to 2016, I ran a website that I called Shy Highway. During that time I produced my second book, The Shyness Guide, then revised it, doubling it in size to what it is today. Along the way though, I got interested in autism. At first I tried to avoid the autism debate. It … Continue reading Is this the Autism Highway?
In my novels The Birdcatcher and Skol, and in The Shyness Guide, I’ve said that I think shyness and autism are both usually natural. I've also suggested that, in some people, they may be connected. This perception of them isn’t supported by any research as far as I know. But when I was a boy … Continue reading Autism and Shyness | Are they related?
This 2010 film - subtitled "Understanding Asperger's Syndrome" - looks at first sight to be just another autism film, with a tour of autistic patients, much talk about symptoms and therapies, etc. But there is much more in the 55 minutes of this documentary. After suggesting that famous people like Einstein, Beethoven, Mozart, Van Gogh … Continue reading Autism | film review | Oops, Wrong Planet!
In my book The Shyness Guide, I discuss The Pipestone Wolves, a book by animal behaviorist Gunter Bloch about a family of wolves that lived in Canada's Banff National Park. Bloch writes about the shyness that is common in wolves, and most wild animals. But he has a concept of shyness that is different. After … Continue reading Shyness and Wolves | A new way of seeing ourselves?
Long before I learned about autism, I was thinking about it. From the beginning I was a loner – when I entered school at 5 yrs old, I didn't keep to myself by choice, I did it by instinct. I was completely unable to have friends. As Chris Stone says in my novel The Birdcatcher, … Continue reading Autism | Could it be simple after all?
Nothing about shyness bothers non-shy people more than the reluctance of shy people to talk. "What's the matter with you? Speak up! Be assertive! Stop hiding from us!" - that's their common refrain in workplaces, at school, etc. Why are social people like that? I think it starts with their instinctual need for communication. Never … Continue reading Rescuing Shyness | Resist the hostility of the social world
Since the whole world seems to be talking about the so-called debate last night between Donald Trump and Joe Biden, I've got to say something too. It is a bit of a relief to see that even the American media are calling it a disaster. One 'man in the street' said it was like watching … Continue reading Rescuing Reality | the Debate | The boy in the sandbox trying to save the world